Ep. 217 Mini-series 2 Confidence and resilience

Do you feel equipped to deal with the inevitable ups and downs? In today’s episode, Anna looks at the 2nd pillar of building a life outside of the 9 to 5, cultivating confidence and resilience.

*Resources mentioned during the episode*

Outside of the 9 to 5 – Your practical guide to designing and building a profitable business that gives you freedom, flexibility and fulfilment. outsideofthe9to5.com

Confidence and resilience

Hello there, welcome back to the second little mini episode in this little podcast series, a little series to celebrate a big milestone, which is the launch of my new book outside outside of the nine to five. Now looking at one of each of the five pillars each day, so yesterday, we started with pillar one, your definition of success, I do go back and have a listen to that one if you haven’t already. And of course, I hope you’ve had a chance to grab a copy of my book, it’ll take a couple of days if you’ve ordered the paperback to arrive. But I hope you’ve got that already from Amazon, it should be available in your local country. And then there is also a pre order as at the time of recording for the Kindle version.

So yesterday, we looked at pillar one, which is identifying your personal definition of success. Now, I took you through four steps here, each pillar has four steps. For the first one you have setting, rather getting on can’t read my handwriting, getting clear on your big picture vision, identifying your core values, defining your purpose, and finding the right balance. So that was pillar one, which was the big picture, values, purpose, balance all the fun stuff that’s really exciting. Because that’s when you get to really reimagine what’s important to you what success looks like for you. And that is my big why personally as well. So pillar two today is really important. And again, I’m sure, as ever, you’re you’re impatient to get to the nitty gritty to the meaty strategy stuff. But again, please bear with me, because the first few pillars are foundational and skipping these can have dire consequences later on. So cultivating confidence and resilience, again, four steps in. But when we got to so hopefully, if you read the first chapter, then once you’ve read the first chapter, you will have taken the time to reflect on the big picture of what success means to you and what really matters, right. But it’s one thing to have that vision to have a big dream, it’s another to really believe that you can get there. And to pick yourself up every time you let’s face it pretty inevitably experience disappointments, setbacks, failures along the way.

So the second pillar is all about developing that belief in yourself.

And reframing the way you’re thinking about things. It’s about developing the resilience that you’re going to need to cope with the kind of rollercoaster ups and downs to bounce back from setbacks along the way. And to really set yourself up for success over the long haul. Because we’re building a sustainable business over the long term, right? It’s not just oh, this is fun for a few weeks, and then it’s not going to work over time, it’s not going to be enjoyable for you. So four steps here, the first one is to look at what we call your limiting beliefs in coaching. Now, a lot of things that you take out as facts actually are assumptions that you’re making. You’re seeing the world we’re all seeing the world through a filter of our own life experiences and stories. So they’re not facts, they’re actually beliefs. And that seems quite odd. But it’s an incredibly powerful insight. Because as you work towards realizing your vision, you might find that some of these beliefs aren’t actually serving you, they’re limiting you. And it’s so important, then to take the time to reframe how you’re thinking about these things, and choose because yes, you can choose your beliefs. I know it’s hard, but you can choose more empowering beliefs that actually do serve you and your goals. So that’s the first step of pillar to identifying, of course, first of all, and then reframing those limiting beliefs. Second, related to this, we’ll look at adopting a different kind of mindset.

So the mindset of being, you know, whatever you want to call yourself, an entrepreneur, freelancer, solopreneur, business owner, etc.

When you’re working for yourself, it’s very different to the mindset that you have as an employee in a big corporation. So we really need to look at the kind of mindset that’s going to support you, outside of the nine to five as you’re working for yourself, and how you can embrace that different mindset how you can start making those shifts. Pillar three is self care. And I know it’s become a bit of a cliche, you know, hashtag self care on Instagram, but it’s as ever cliche for a reason. So when you are your business, as I always say, taking care of you is taking care of your business, if you don’t take care of yourself. First of all, obviously, that’s not going to be particularly fun for you, it’s certainly not good for you, for your happiness for your well being for your family, for your lifestyle, right. And more concretely, from a business point of view. If your business lives and dies with you as a solopreneur, then you really need to be fit and healthy to keep that business alive. Now, of course, there’s also an element of choosing the right business model to support that kind of thing. But self care, the different ways in which you can take care of yourself is so so important when you’re working for yourself. The final step of the second pillar is to look at the different types of support that you’re going to need to get through the initial transition out of the nine to five, but also to make it sustainable for the long term.

Because the journey through entrepreneurship, you know, initially absolutely but ongoing, can feel really isolating. And we don’t want that to be the case for you. We don’t want you to feel that you’re working all alone, right and you don’t have to. So if you listen to this podcast, hello. If you’ve picked up the book, then you know You’re already showing signs that you’re open to learning and asking for help. And that’s really powerful. But we’ll look at the different ways in which you can get all the different kinds of support that you’re going to need. So that’s pillar two. So again, the four steps, reframing your limiting beliefs, embracing a different mindset, prioritizing self care and creating a support system. And again, you know, it might seem like I’m too slow, but as a lot of people say I’ve had a lot of people say recently, slowing down is the fastest way to speed up actually. So you know, rather than rushing ahead, stumbling along and making mistakes or rash decisions, taking the time to get clear on that vision, what you really want all those parameters and then to work on your mindset and your beliefs and so on, will help you to avoid self sabotaging further down the line, you’ll have them the grit, as Angela Duckworth calls it, the resilience, the confidence to keep going even in the face of those inevitable setbacks and difficulties. And in doing so, in setting yourself up for long term, you’re going to be in the top 1% or less of people who start a business because most people give up you know, before they have a chance to see any results. So that’s pillar two today, cultivating confidence, resilience. Yesterday was pillar one, which was your definition of success. And then tomorrow, I’m sure you’re impatient to get to that bit we’ll be looking at choosing the right business model.

So that’s pillar three tomorrow, the third little episode in this mini podcast series. Again, please do grab your copy of outside of the nine to five it’s available at a special launch price at the moment paperback on your local Amazon. You can also pre order the Kindle and after this promotional period will be going up to full price. And that will be a shame. So thank you so much for your support. I really hope it’s a valuable resource for you and again, if and when you do read it, I would love for you to share a review as well. Thank you so much and I’ll see you back here tomorrow. Bye for now.

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